Disappointment is when reality falls short of our expectations – and it sucks. We can’t always change a situation, but we can change our reaction to it.
Sometimes things don’t go as planned. You realize that a situation is out of your control, there’s nothing you can do about it, and it just plain sucks.
This episode is unfortunately inspired by recent real-life events. We were supposed to meet in D.C. this month for some much-needed sister time, but the universe/pandemic had other plans.
One of our coping mechanisms is thinking “it’s all content” when things don’t go our way. In that spirit, here are five strategies to help you deal with disappointment and frustration.
- Allow yourself to feel all the feels without judgment. Be endlessly kind and compassionate with yourself, without judgment or comparative suffering
- Clarify what’s within your control and what isn’t.
- Get support and comfort from your people.
- Once you’ve given yourself time for feeling, validating, and processing your emotions, try to reframe the situation.
- In making new plans, find a balance between blind optimism and lowered expectations.
Let us know how you manage your own internal boundaries. Which limits feel strong, and which are you still working on?
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- Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené Brown
- Unlocking Us podcast: Comparative Suffering, the 50/50 Myth, and Settling the Ball
- Episode 44: Pressing the Reset Button