We bring in our husbands, Brian and Darren (a.k.a. The Dudes) to discuss our love languages and how they show up in our relationships.
Gary Chapman published the book, The 5 Love Languages, over 30 years ago. Since then, the concept of “love languages” has become an enduring part of our pop culture lexicon, beyond the original five from the book. People talk about their love languages being tacos or travel or solitude in an empty house.
The five love languages, as outlined by Chapman are:
- Words of affirmation: Your partner giving you kind, encouraging, loving and positive words and unsolicited compliments
- Acts of service: Your partner doing something thoughtful or caring for you to make your life easier or more enjoyable, like doing a chore, running an errand or cooking a meal
- Physical touch: Your partner giving you physical affection, not just in the bedroom, but also through hugs, kisses, massages and other loving touch
- Quality time: Your partner giving you their undivided attention and making time to share activities and conversation together
- Receiving gifts: Your partner showing their love and care through thoughtful gifts, small or large
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TED: Your Favorite Person’s Love Language: How to Tell, and How to Use It
The Gottman Institute: “Invest in Your Emotional Bank Account”
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