Make small adjustments to your surroundings to change your habits.
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#FlashbackFriday from Melia: Me with Gill at around ages 5 and 2. Our dad occasionally gets nostalgic, scans old family photos with the largest desktop scanner you’ve ever seen, and posts them on Facebook with sentimental captions. It’s adorable.❤️ . In other news, who says a pink turtleneck and a shiny red vest don’t go together? 🔥💯 . . #familyphotos #oldfamilyphotos #sisters #nostalgia #the80s #throwback #fbf
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The theme for this episode is: change your environment to change your habits.
If you run into a problem – especially the same problem over and over – it doesn’t mean you are a fundamentally flawed human being. You aren’t, at your core, irresponsible or disorganized or incompetent (or a bad partner, parent, employee, etc.).
Instead of asking, “How can I change myself to fix this problem,” try, “How can I change this situation to fix this problem?”
This topic has been on our minds since, at the beginning of the year, so many of us are trying to form new habits and break old ones. And the strategy of changing your environment is well-researched.
“What looks like a person problem is often a situation problem,” write Chip and Dan Heath in their book Switch. James Clear also talks about it in Atomic Habits; and Brian Wansick applies it to food in Mindless Eating.
Melia put this principle into action when she stopped berating herself for always misplacing her keys – and instead installed a key rack next to the front door. And Gill tries to change her work environment throughout the workday, going to a coffee shop for a few hours, instead of feeling unproductive when she gets distracted by chores around the house.
Steal This Tip
Here’s a roundup of tips to help you change your environment to build good habits.
The Challenge: Exercising regularly.
You Might Think: I’m so lazy; or I’ll never make exercise a habit.
Situation Hack: Put your exercise gear out the night before to save yourself time and stress in the morning.
The Challenge: Eating more junk food than you’d like.
You Might Think: I have no willpower or self-control.
Situation Hack: Make healthy food convenient (and unhealthy food inconvenient). Think about what you want to be eating more of, and arrange your environment to make that the easy, mindless choice.
The Challenge: Your phone distracting you from being fully present with your friends and family.
You Might Think: I’m addicted to my screen (or social media or work).
Situation Hack: Put your phone out of sight when you’re with your loved ones. Take it out if you want to snap a photo, look something up or respond to an urgent text. But then put it away again.
The Challenge: Forgetting to take something with you or cross a task off your list.
You Might Think: I have a terrible memory. I’m an irresponsible person.
Situation Hack: Put a visual reminder in between you and the task.
Get It Together / Got It Together
We each share something that’s going well for us right now and something that needs work.
Gill’s Get It Together: Procrastinating on big deadlines
Gill’s Got It Together: Keeping up with monthly goals on her 19 for 2019 list so far
Melia Get It Together: Figuring out how to make weekend mornings less stressful
Melia Got It Together: Using a standing desk at work (see a picture on Instagram)
Get In Touch
We love hearing what you think about the podcast! Please get in touch, and let us know what you like and what you want to hear in future episodes.
- Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath
- Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip and Dan Heath
- Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
- Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think We Do by Brian Wansink
- Lee Ross’ Fundamental Attribution Error
- Virginia Tech’s study on devices and the quality of conversations
- Dark Room app for distraction-free writing
- Melia’s new adjustable standing desk